Divorce and children’s rights. Parents must realize that children, through no fault of their own, become unwilling parties to their parents’ divorce proceedings. All too often, the child becomes the pawn of either party, or both during the divorce, in that the child is use by either party or both, to punish the other party, or to gain leverage in getting something they want. This can be very detrimental to the emotional well-being of the child. Parents should realize that children have rights that should not be overlooked, and that is the right to feel safe.
Children’s Rights – Parents Should Put Their Child First
During the divorce proceedings, emotions will run high. Hurt feelings transfer into anger, revenge and punishment. Within the midst of all this turmoil is the child who does not understand what his or her parents are fighting about, why they are angry, and why their parents now live in separate houses. Often the child will believe that they are at fault for the breakup of the family and the reason why their parents are not speaking with civility to one another. Children do not understand why mommy lives in one house and daddy lives in another, when they use to live together, and why they are shifted between these two houses. They do not understand why mommy says bad things about daddy and vise versa. When divorcing parents put their children in the middle of their divorces, they are not putting their children first.
How Children May React to Feuding Parents
When forced to endure two feuding parents, children will often start showing signs of deep depression caused by the stresses and strains of being thrust in the middle of the rivalry. Sometimes a vibrant, active child will become withdrawn. They may exhibit mood swings and bouts of anger called, “acting out.” Parents should be able to recognize these signs and take the necessary steps to resolve them before they get out of hand.
There are organizations that provide assistance in helping parents put their children first. Parents who put their children first when making decisions during the divorce proceedings will find that the well-being of the child is enhanced as the child is able to adjust more quickly to the new situation and will still feel that they are loved by both parents. The divorcing couple will find that their stress levels are lowered because their focus is now centered on what is best for, not only mommy and daddy, but for the children as well.
Why is it Important to Put Children First?
Depending on the age of your child when you make the decision to file for a divorce, you are tied to each other until your child reaches the age of maturity. This means that child support and child custody and visitation will be a constant reminder that if you do not put your child first, there may be never-ending court battles and continuing economic woes that will put pressure on already strained emotions.
If you are having a contentious divorce, you need an attorney who can help you with issues that have become difficult for you to handle. Hire an expert divorce attorney.
Getting Legal Help for Your Santa Rosa Divorce
Questions regarding the children’s rights in a divorce can be complicated. If you have questions about divorce, Beck Law P.C., can help you. The Santa Rosa family law attorneys at Beck Law P.C., can answer your questions and help you determine the best method of obtaining a divorce given your unique circumstances. For a free consultation regarding divorce, or any other family law question, contact Beck Law P.C. at (707) 576-7175 or visit us online.